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You know more than you think you do

Whatever you’re stuck on, whatever incomprehensible problem is twisting your knickers in a knot, you probably know what you need to know in order to solve it.

You already have all the tools you need. So when you reach for that new technique, the better teacher, the perfect practice, pause: are you trying [...]

77 Things That Don't Completely Suck

It is that time of year! The one where we play 77 Things That Don’t Completely Suck. Why? Because sometimes everyone telling you to be grateful makes you feel annoyed or uncomfortable, and sometimes we have mixed feelings about holidays for political or social or personal reasons. Also because it’s fun! [...]

Tribble secrets!

I am going to tell you a secret about tribbles: they often travel in groups. Or, more precisely, in lines. You think you’ve sorted a tribble out, and then you notice that behind her is her sister.

The way it works is pretty simple: once we’ve given ourselves a reason for resisting [...]

Yes we can, the inside edition

We’ve talked a lot about different ways to listen, to try to pick your own wise voice out of the crowd of other things clamoring for our attention.

If the world were a perfectly lovely place, being able to hear that voice would be enough to enable us to move towards it. But [...]

Some reasons it's hard to let go of anger

Anger shields us from pain. As long as anger is predominant in our feelings, sadness and hurt and everything else have to sneak in around the edges. Sometimes, staying angry feels easier or less scary than facing our full emotional reaction, even when the events in question are long past and we’re safe [...]

Will

When I was in my early twenties, I thought of will as mostly meaning willpower: the drive to push myself to get through it, get things done, whatever it took.

In a way I now find entirely predictable, this didn’t work out so well. It turned out to be unsustainable because I based [...]

Goals and me

I don’t really like the word “goal.” It makes me think of pressure and achievement and power ties and childhood soccer games in the rain. I do like the words desire and intention, which make me think of the positive kind of wanting and hope and trust and competence.

Although I sometimes wish it [...]

The Trouble with Tribbles

This happens to all of us:
Something happens. It’s not something fun, and we’re hurt or upset. Or we’re stuck resisting something that seems like an obviously good idea on the surface.

And just when we’d like to be dealing with what’s happening in the moment, some not-so-helpful corner of your brain pipes up with [...]

What's the one thing?

I’ve been working a lot with this question lately: what’s the one thing I can do that would most improve my life right now?

This question has a bunch of important parts.

It’s only about one thing. It is usually true that there are lots of things you could do that would make your [...]

Stories

What central story is at the core of you, and how do you share it with the world?

As you have probably guessed, rewriting stories is something I’m a big fan of. I started off my young adulthood with a story about how no one loved or supported me, which led me into some pretty [...]

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