Goals and me

I don’t really like the word “goal.” It makes me think of pressure and achievement and power ties and childhood soccer games in the rain. I do like the words desire and intention, which make me think of the positive kind of wanting and hope and trust and competence.

Although I sometimes wish it [...]


What’s the thing you most want to achieve next year? How do you imagine you’ll feel when you get it? Free? Happy? Complete? Blissful? Write that feeling down. Then, brainstorm 10 things you can do, or 10 new thoughts you can think, in order to experience that feeling today.

The thing I most want to be [...]

Hacks for getting what you want

There are two kinds of things that are important to getting what you want.

One is what are sometimes called soft skills: knowing how to choose which desires are most important, how to move past fear to a place where you can deeply commit, even knowing how to identify what you want in the first place. [...]