We have known each other a long time. You have been a difficult mirror for me: all the ways that I couldn’t or wouldn’t show up, all the things I feared from you, my willingness to walk away rather than face you some days.
Over the years, I’ve come to understand that this is [...]
I just bought a book with this title, written by Cheryl Strayed of Wild fame. The bookstore clerk enthused about how much she loved it, despite sharing my dubiousness about the “self-help industrial complex.” The store gives you a bookmark with every purchase, and she quickly paged through and stuck it in. [...]
How has a friend changed you or your perspective on the world this year? Was this change gradual, or a sudden burst?
Oh, so many choices here!
One friend has, through her own persistent clarity, shown me how many of my “rational” beliefs come down to fear.
By giving some very difficult feedback with great gentleness, a friend [...]
Here’s a fear I think most of us share: that we only change because we feel bad. Maybe even that the only things powerful enough to motivate us through the challenges of change are pain, fear, and suffering.
This puts us in quite a bind. Our desire to change is about wanting to be [...]